Recently, I was talking to one of my friends who had a daughter that had been killed in a car accident. His daughter was similar in age to my son PK who was killed at the age of 18. He was struggling with how to process his grief. He said, “I put all of her pictures away……
After my husband died in August 2011, his family was gathered with us at our home as we were preparing to go to the visitation. I am quite sure it was the baby brother who asked, “Will we still have Thanksgiving here?” I remember replying something like, “It will be so important to the kids and I…
Have you ever been to the ocean? If you have, then did you spend time in the ocean and let the waves roll over you? Did you spend time on the beach watching the waves roll in and out? Have you ever been to the ocean when there was a severe storm and watched the waves strike…
Have you ever been caught outside in a storm? What are the thoughts, images, or kinds of storms that come to your mind when you think about the storms that you have experienced? Darkness? Lightening? Thunder? Hail? Blizzard? Hurricane? Tornado? There are many types of storms that we experience in our day to day lives that…
June 26 2017. The fourth anniversary of my only son’s death. My mind searches… how is this even possible? My heart breaks… no, I just want my son. My soul cries…I will never understand. I have had so many people that have asked me in the past several years the following questions: Is it better?…
My grief journey has not only been filled with my grief but it has also been filled with the tremendous pain of my grieving children. My two daughters were 11 and 14 and my son was 16 when their daddy died, and my two girls were 13 and 16 when their big brother died. It has been heartwrenching…
Take a few moments to think about how we live in today’s culture… we want everything to move so quickly. We want to drive through and pick up our food, and we expect those drive-through lines to be fast and for our food to be hot and ready when we arrive at the window. We bank and…
Wow! Last night was such an incredible night to see our special group of young ladies advance in regionals and qualify for the state basketball tournament! So proud of our girls! After the game came an incredible gift for my daughter MiKayla. Kristen Wiseman’s wonderful dad came and talked to MiKayla after the game. He…
So often, those of us who are on this grief journey or who have experienced trauma in our lives experience triggers along the way. A trigger can take us right back to the trauma that we have experienced whether it is a flashback or reliving the memory. My triggers have included a wide variety of…
June 26, 2016. The day my only son died. Three years ago today. As we did last year, my heart desired to spend the day with my two wonderful daughters that I am so incredibly proud of and love so very much. The three of us have learned from one another that time by or…